Fear of public speaking can also be a fear of death —an emotional death. We feel naked and exposed in front of an audience. We think people are going to scrutinize everything we say and do. We pressure ourselves to be perfect, or else our...
Read moreA Mind-Blowing Way to Reframe Embarrassment, Shame and Humiliation
The “consolidation window” occurs for up to 6 hours after a distressing or potentially traumatic experience occurs when memories are being stored and strengthened in the brain. Many of us have likely stored memories of embarrassing...
Read moreWhy We Hide and Compare Ourselves to Others
There is a societal pressure that we feel the need to prove ourselves to others, which often leaves us feeling somehow “not good enough” and like we’re not meeting their expectations. We often have a fear of not looking “normal” due...
Read moreYou can join Toastmasters and NOT give a speech? What? Yes, you can start small and work your way up.
Usually the word “Toastmasters” sparks fear and resistance in my groups and workshops: “Why would I want to go there? They are professional speakers, it’s much too intimidating, I’m not ready to give a speech!”...
Read moreI’m not here to shame you for the goals you didn’t accomplish last year.
Give yourself credit for all the things you haven’t avoided and for what you have volunteered to do outside of your comfort zone. Big and small! Or sought help (self-help, therapy, anything) to overcome this fear. This very first step is the most...
Read moreI’m the Quietest One Here, They Must Think I’m ___!
She beat herself up for years about being too shy/quiet/anxious to go out to a bar with her friends. After asking some questions, it was discovered that she doesn’t even drink, can’t stand loud music, or anything to do with the bar environment...
Read moreHow Do You ‘What-If’ Yourself?
What if people see how anxious I am? What if I have another episode of panic as I’ve had in the past? What if I freeze and forget what I am going to say? What if I lose my place in my notes or run out of breath? We need to be more aware of...
Read moreFocus on Your Purpose, Not Yourself
I used to be so hyper-vigilant of my anxiety while speaking, I would rush through, “hiding” and ignoring my audience. Once I learned the technique, to focus on my message, my whole mindset changed about public speaking. ...
Read moreFlashback to 2010: My Top 3 Tips of My Weekend Workshop Experience as a Participant
I was at a crossroads in my life when I came across Janet’s Getting Over Stage Fright weekend workshop and books. I was running out of hope and on the verge of surrendering to my irrational fear of public speaking. I was in great need of...
Read moreSometimes Nothing Is As It Seems
I’ve had many calls recently with potential workshop attendees and I love sharing memories of previous workshops. I’ve seen and heard it all for the past 9 years now, since I was a participant myself. One of the most common themes is the powerful...
Read moreMy First 3 Guest Speaker Events – Behind the Scenes
I was asked to be a guest speaker at 3 networking events last month, and they all fell in the same week! When it rains, it pours! Without hesitation, I said yes, despite the old familiar feeling of anxiety creeping in! I’ve been facilitating...
Read moreA Detailed Plan of Action
One helpful way to start taking action is to be held accountable with your commitment to overcome this fear. Accountability will eliminate the time and effort you spend on unproductive behavior, leading to procrastination. Creating and...
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