Eager? Anxious? Surreal? After a year of social distancing and video meetings, what will it be like to be in front of a live audience again? For some of my coaching clients, the anxiety is already starting now with plans to tentatively reopen...
Read moreHow to Use Imposter Syndrome to Boost your Self-confidence
Warning: This is going to sound backwards. Trust in me for a few minutes. Here goes: Failure is the way to success. Discomfort is the exchange for success. When you have self-confidence, you can create amazing success because you’re willing to...
Read moreFear as a Gift & Guilt Explained: Changing in 2021
Have you ever experienced a turning point, where you felt that you could no longer continue on as you were? That something had to CHANGE? That the pain of feeling “stuck” and afraid was far worse than the fear of taking action, maybe even...
Read moreWe are All Guilty of “Shoulding” Ourselves and Excessive Expectations
Especially during these difficult Covid times, we find ourselves “Should” and “Shouldn’ting” ourselves to no end. Although we’ve been adjusting to this for 9 months, it’s a new way of life and we are likely judging ourselves harshly for not...
Read moreHow to Ease Into Those First Few Minutes of Extreme Anxiety
I hear it over and over again – how scary those first few minutes can be, when you step up to speak or perform and all the attention is turned toward you. When the quietness descends upon the room, you feel the anxious anticipation of...
Read moreLoosening the Grip of Our Comparative/Competitive Mind
Many of my coaching clients get caught up in comparisons. It’s also always been a huge topic in all my support groups and workshops over the years. The following was written by Janet Esposito in a previous blog in October 2015: I recently read an...
Read moreWhat % of a whole person are you?
We’ve all been there, sweating and anxious days to weeks before a presentation thinking our whole job depends on those crucial minutes while speaking. What if you looked at it a different way? That those minutes only represent a small fraction of...
Read moreIn full disclosure, I should be embarrassed. Instead, I’m proud.
Last month, I had the honor of being invited to do a video meeting/interview with a well-known psychologist, author and founder of Essential Speaker, Dr. Doreen Downing. Her project was to interview 20 of the top anxiety experts for her Anxiety...
Read moreWhat Enrages Me About Beta-Blockers and Also Why I’m in Strong Favor of Them
I’m fired up about them and this is my PSA sharing my, Janet’s and others’ experiences! There are people completely for or against beta-blockers, some who have never wanted to try them and those who fear they cannot stop taking them right before...
Read moreWhat Perfectionism Does to Your Public Speaking Anxiety
Fear of public speaking can also be a fear of death —an emotional death. We feel naked and exposed in front of an audience. We think people are going to scrutinize everything we say and do. We pressure ourselves to be perfect, or else our...
Read moreA Mind-Blowing Way to Reframe Embarrassment, Shame and Humiliation
The “consolidation window” occurs for up to 6 hours after a distressing or potentially traumatic experience occurs when memories are being stored and strengthened in the brain. Many of us have likely stored memories of embarrassing...
Read moreWhy We Hide and Compare Ourselves to Others
There is a societal pressure that we feel the need to prove ourselves to others, which often leaves us feeling somehow “not good enough” and like we’re not meeting their expectations. We often have a fear of not looking “normal” due...
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