Is it a crutch, a stepping stone, or does it depend on the situation? This question has come up often at the workshop and on the follow up calls for decades. Many people report that they don’t like the idea of using a medication as it feels...
Read moreThe Importance of Maintaining Your Progress
Tomorrow morning during my introduction, I will be emphasizing to the group members the importance of maintaining their progress after the workshop. Everyone wants to know “what is the cure, how long will it take?” Unfortunately, there is no...
Read moreCommitment, Acceptance, and Autopilot
Do you “blackout” and can’t remember what you said while speaking? How do you put the “blackout” feeling into perspective? “You need to accept your anxiety about public speaking.” When I first began my journey with overcoming stage...
Read moreWhat Are Your Safety Behaviors? – What Will Be Your First Step?
I’d like to share one of my first steps with you. My “safety behavior” used to be getting to the work conference room early in order to grab a seat right next to the door. I used to worry that I would be called upon to...
Read moreWhat is the Fear of Failure Costing You?
If someone has an irrational fear of say, spiders, or snakes, they would be exposed to them in a safe environment so they can make a new association that snakes aren’t scary. This is what we do at the workshop, facing what we are...
Read moreThe Irony of Being Unwilling to Share Your Fear
Isn’t it strange that public speaking is known to be the greatest fear of all (followed by death!), yet most people will not tell others? Process that irony for a moment. Comedian Jerry Seinfeld said that what this means is that when you go...
Read moreWhat Does Taking a Chance Or New Year’s Resolutions Mean to You?
It’s New Year’s Day, are you feeling the pressure? The resolutions and goal setting? How does it make you feel? What does a goal mean to you? Is overcoming the fear of public speaking or performing high on your list? Or been on your radar for so...
Read moreUsing Fear As Our Protector – How to Take Action NOW
What if you didn’t wait until that presentation or performance comes up unexpectedly and decided to get ahead of it NOW so that you wouldn’t be living in constant anticipation of “When am I going to have to present or perform? How can I get out...
Read moreOld Me Verses New Me: My Made and Maid of Honor Speech Last Month
That’s not a typo in the title. It is my play on words. If asked to give a speech at a wedding: the old me, I would have felt like I was “made” to do it, and now, I feel privileged to give the “maid” of honor speech! I was able to change my focus...
Read moreWhat’s The Worst That Can Happen? You Will Remain Stuck Where You Are.
A long time ago, when I first began my journey, someone said to me, “You need to accept your anxiety about public speaking.” I simply did not understand. I had been fighting and avoiding it for 20 years! Many years after that, I heard another...
Read moreHow to Stop Your What Ifs and Move Ahead Fearlessly
If you’re like me and have had public speaking or performing anxiety since you were in school, then this time of year may hold memories of that feared first day of school. Will I have to get up in front of the class? Will I have to introduce...
Read moreHow to Face Your Fear by Increasing Self Confidence
One of the best ways to build your confidence is to accumulate and overcome challenges. Many people think they’re confident because of their accomplishments, rather, they are confident because of the obstacles they overcame to achieve their...
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