Fear as a Gift & Guilt Explained: Changing in 2021

Have you ever experienced a turning point, where you felt that you could no longer continue on as you were?  

That something had to CHANGE? That the pain of feeling “stuck” and afraid was far worse than the fear of taking action, maybe even massive action?  

No better time than New Year’s to think about change, right?

We are conditioned to avoid pain and discomfort and to seek pleasure. Don’t judge yourself for having fear; it´s normal! The same goes for not taking action in some cases.  

I lived my life like that for many years, too caught up in the cycle of fear to do anything about it. Living a self-limited life. Until the pain of staying where I was, the avoidance and self-induced guilt of not trying to change, became too much to bear.

I then learned that taking charge and changing my approach would be the only thing that would make me feel better.

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How can you perceive fear as a gift?  

•    Fear can signify that you are about to step out of your comfort zone and take action.

•    What lies outside of your comfort zone? Your passion, dreams, energy, enthusiasm, meaning, growth, contribution and feeling fully ALIVE.

•    It means that you are about to do something meaningful; something new or that is not part of who you are fully yet.

•    Fear goes hand in hand with success. You’ll never unlock your potential if you hide within the shell of your comfort zone.

Ask yourself this question: “What if I won’t ever be ready to take charge of my life?”. The answer to the question is that you’ll never be ready.  

What successful people have learned more than anything else, is to take action in the face of fear and uncomfortable feelings. It’s important that you start creating new experiences regardless of your fear, even if it’s only virtually for now. Consider it a good way to practice before going back to in-person audiences.

Guilt often comes from trying to avoid something:

•    To feel guilt, not only do we have to create it, but we also have to accept it.

•    It’s anger, disappointment, or shame in ourselves for something we did or didn’t do.

•    Real guilt comes from failing your own expectations for yourself.

•    Real guilt needs our permission to exist.

You can learn to use guilt to your advantage. Appreciate your feelings of guilt because they can tell you a lot about yourself.

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